The Pregnant Wedding Planner – Confessions From the Trenches
by Alisha Chadee
What an amazing year 2017 has been, and we still have lots to go! This year I saw Whim take on more weddings and corporate events than ever, with a stronger focus on ideal type clients. We did a complete brand relaunch late last year, and the results have been spectacular! We collaborated with amazing friendors, and made a bunch of new ones! I personally had a huge change in my personal life, too! After two and a half blissful years of marriage, my husband and I discovered that we are expecting our first little human! We’ve affectionately dubbed our little nugget ‘Pooklet’ and we’ve had many adventures with our unborn son this summer! He’ll make his debut in October, and we’re all eagerly awaiting his arrival, as he’s the first grandkid on both sides of the family, so it’s like I’m carrying the Messiah in my womb right now. No pressure or anything :).
Speaking of adventures, being a full time wedding planner, business owner and all-around girl-boss is challenging on its own, but adding the unexpected and hard-to-predict symptoms of pregnancy made this year a whole new ball game for me. As a pregnant wedding planner, I had to really change the way my days flowed, especially wedding days. My typical wedding days can be anywhere from 8-14 hours – averaging out at about 12 hours or so. Fighting through nausea, fatigue and coping with an expanding waistline meant that I had to change my approach to pretty much everything. Lucky me, since I pretty much just figured it out last season LOL! However, I’ve made it through the busiest part of our season, and I have a few tips to share with those of you out there who might be in the same situation now or soon!
Be Real With Yourself & Your Clients
I disclosed my pregnancy pretty quickly to my clients, but when you do so is totally up to you and your comfort level with sharing the news. I found out I was expecting in February, and we shared the news in April. My wedding season had started in February (I found out the day after our first wedding), and I had quite a full calendar in May so I let those couples know that I was expecting by April. I let them know that this wouldn’t affect my ability to finish planning their weddings or my availability on the day of. That said, I did let them know that I would be bringing on extra help for any lifting or running around that might need to get done because I was fighting serious fatigue in my first trimester. Having that discussion early on helped to manage expectations, and helped my team have contingency plans in place for each of our weddings going forward. This also led to a fabulous expansion of our team with Ilina and Sylwia coming on board! This put my mind at ease because any events for later in the year now had full coverage and all of our clients were happy with the solutions we offered.
Stay Hydrated & Keep Snacks on Hand
This is super important, especially if you’re fighting through that first trimester. I learned very quickly that morning sickness isn’t confined to the morning, and it hits like a bat out of hell with little to no warning at all. The telltale symptom for me was a deep and gnawing hunger pang that came almost out of nowhere, and I knew if I didn’t eat within 5 minutes, I’d be really sick. After one unfortunate incident in a Tim Horton’s drive through, I learned to keep water and snacks everywhere, from in my office to in my car to in my emergency kit and purse. Granola bars, nuts, dried fruit, dry cereal, cookies.. pretty much anything that I could access quickly. As lovely as it would have been to completely ride out my morning sickness in the comfy confines of my bed (I was sick for about 12 weeks straight from week 10 to week 22 or so), that just wasn’t realistic, as I had tons of events to prepare for, meetings to go to and clients to wow. Yet throwing up in the middle of a meeting because I hadn’t prepared properly also wasn’t an option. Also that’s just gross.
Gear Up, Take Breaks & Delegate, Delegate, Delegate!
Any wedding planner worth their salt will tell you that comfortable low-heeled or flat shoes are an absolute must to get through the long hours of a wedding day. If not, you’ll be rocking a serious party hunch the next day if you can walk at all! This is doubly true as a pregnant wedding planner! Invest in a pair of orthotics or other well fitting and well-supporting shoes because your body is already doing a heck of a lot without the added strain of no arch support! I also found it useful to invest in a few dresses/pantsuits that accommodated my ever-expanding waistline and kept me feeling light and comfy throughout the day. Depending on the stage you’re at, you may not even need maternity dresses specifically – just flowy dresses and tops could do the trick! Lastly, the hardest but by far the most important lesson for me was to trust my team and delegate more than ever. We created task lists for our assistants and on the day of, if I needed a minute, I delegated duties to my assistant(s) to take the load off of me a bit so I could rest or sit down as needed.
Honestly, Whim has amazing couples and each and every one of them felt super invested in my pregnancy and made the experience beautiful for me. It’s so lovely working with all of our brides and grooms and I felt so well taken care of by every venue I worked at! Between my couples, my team and our venues, little Baby C has been living the good life while mama put in work! With a little bit of preparation beforehand, you too can get through a busy wedding season while growing a human! Leave me a comment below and let me know what it was like for you getting through a busy wedding season while expecting!
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- Published in 2017, Wedding Planner Tips, Wedding Planning